Eight Rules for Living with Pain
Each morning when you rise, you should thank god for giving you the gift of another day of life on his
beautiful planet. If you greet the new day free of any physical pain, you should thank god a second time.
Thousands of people are not fortunate enough to experience a pain free day. They spend their day struggling
against pain because of a temporary or permanent illness or malady.
Back problems are an example of a common cause of the type of continuous pain I am referring to, but
there are many other causes. This article is for those of you who survive this type of pain or who know
someone who does. The eight rules provided below, unfortunately, will not remove your pain. Instead they
will show you how to accept your situation and live a proud and productive life despite the pain.
Rule 1. Play the ball where it lies. This rule of golf should be your philosophy of life. You
can give up on life and be angry about your situation, or you can accept it and deal with it the best you
can. I live in Arizona adjacent to a mountain park. It is very common to see a coyote walk through my back
yard. Many times I see a coyote limping with a broken leg.
I can only imagine the other maladies the coyote suffers - fleas, ticks, mange, dental pain etc. But
the coyote doesnít think "how unfair life is", or lament his situation in any way. The coyote just goes
on with life, doing the best he can to survive each day, without judgment. Be like the coyote. Accept
your situation and live a proud and productive life despite the pain.
Rule 2. Be nice to other people. Donít be resentful of people who do not have the misfortune
of living with pain. Your suffering does not give you the right to be nasty to other people. You may
have the right to be nasty to the person who caused the problem resulting in your pain, but not to the
others who had nothing to with it.
Don't have unrealistic expectations about how people should treat you because of your condition.
They need only treat you the same as they would treat any other individual. People have their own lives
and their own problems to worry about. Everyone you meet will experience periods of pain in their lifetime,
and they canít expect the world to stop and give them special recognition for that, and neither should you.
Rule 3. Don't be lazy and expect other people to do everything for you. A sympathetic relative
or friend may wait on you hand-and-foot for a while. But eventually even the most sympathetic person will
tire of that. Do as much as you can for yourself. As long as you can perform a function without causing
further problems or experiencing unbearable pain, do it yourself.
When other people see that you are determined to take care of yourself despite the pain, they will
gain more respect for you. Then they will gladly help you with the tasks you really canít do yourself.
Itís not only god who helps those who help themselves, we will all gladly help the individual who is
making an honest effort to help himself.
When you do receive help from someone, always show appreciation to the person who assists you. Thank
them each and every time they help you. Donít take their help for granted. This includes people who are
paid to assist you. Most people receive a paycheck to do a job, but very few eagerly perform their duties.
Show sincere appreciation when they do. This will make assisting you a more pleasant part of their job.
Most people who live with pain or disabilities are still capable of performing many tasks quite well.
When a friend or relative voluntarily provides you with assistance in a task you are not capable of
performing, see if there is something within your capabilities that you can do for them in return.